Tammy Fletcher

Today we’re speaking with Tammy Fletcher. A true expert in psychotherapy. She has published two award winning books and has earned multiple masters degrees. Tammy has helped many couples and individuals overcome  their relationship struggles through her expert therapeutic...

The Three Faces of Jealousy

If you are struggling with jealousy in your relationship, you don’t need anyone to tell you that it is a strong and overwhelming emotion. Proverbs 27:4 says: “Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?” It can absolutely dominate not only your thoughts and emotions, but also your relationship. It is helpful to look at the different types of jealousy to see why you are experiencing it and how you can overcome it.   You are resentful and envious of your partner’s success, relationships, characteristics, or opportunities.  This type of jealousy comes from a place of self-centeredness, competitiveness,...

Online Dating Advice – Marni Battista

You’ve seen the commercials touting its success, you’ve heard your friends rave about the great guys they’ve found, and you’ve probably even toyed with the idea of online dating yourself, whether or not you’ve actually set up an online dating profile.   What stops many women dead in their tracks, however, is their worry about the “ins and outs” of pursuing men online. After all, body language and boundaries are often difficult enough to read in person. How do you know if you’re being too forward–or worse, not forward enough–when it comes to online dating? Dating online...

‘Dating’ a Married Man

Perhaps the best advice you can give someone about having a relationship with a married man is telling her not to even start. However, that may not be practical for all women. As my friend Jenna* told me, “You can’t help who you fall in love with. The love of your life just might be a married man.”   Being part of any couple can be challenging and unpredictable, as we all know. But when the man with whom you’re involved is part of another couple, someone else’s husband, then the challenge and unpredictability can make your life a messy, unhappy waiting game that you will rarely win. The woman who is in love...

Aaron Anderson

We’re lucky enough to speak with relationship expert Aaron Anderson today. Aaron Anderson is a therapist and owner of The Marriage and Family Clinic in Denver, Colorado. He specializes in marriages and relationships and has worked in private practice for three years. He has taught at the...

Feng Shui and Your Relationship

Today we’re fortunate enough to speak with Feng Shui expert Helen Arabanos on how Feng Shui can affect your relationship. Helen has taught Feng Shui at the Institute of Psycho-Structural Balancing in Culver City, California and is internationally recognized as a Feng Shui practitioner.   There are a lot of misconceptions about Feng Shui. What exactly is it? Feng Shui was developed about 5,000 years ago in China. Although the more modern, or westernized versions are intuitive in nature, they are adaptations of the original forms of Feng Shui. Feng Shui deals with energy, energy like in the science of physics. Everything is energy....

I Want Him to Change!

I remember the day I looked at my boyfriend (now my ex) and had this overwhelming need to tell him he HAD to change. It was shape up or ship out. Yup, I brought out the big guns – the ultimatum.   I thought I had it figured out. I was going to “fix” him and I was going to do it my way. After all, I’d been living with him for years, we were raising my kids together and I believed the way he was living his life was far from his potential, to say the least. I had this urgency to change the way our lives looked. (Looking back, now I realize I had an urgency to change how I felt on the inside within the context of that...

The Love Delusion

Some people see connections everywhere. They perceive feelings and relatively insignificant interactions and events in the world to be signs of significant meaning—signs that something is “meant to be.” In some cases, this kind of thinking can translate into a delusional love.   Delusions are generally misunderstood. When we think of delusions, we usually think of what are known as “bizarre” delusions, such as those that coincide with psychotic disorders. “Aliens are stealing my thoughts.” That’s bizarre. But without those severe psychotic symptoms, delusions can be more benign and non-bizarre. What the person believes...

Staying True To Yourself

Searching for love and being in a relationship can challenge us to the core. As humans, we so badly want to connect with someone else, that at times it forces us to question ourselves – Who we are and what we represent. It can be especially challenging for us to hold on to whom we are and to make sure that our needs are being met in a relationship if we aren’t really clear about these things before we get into a relationship.   Many married couples have shared with me over the years that they believe that their personal happiness is largely dependent upon their partner. If their partner feels happy, they feel happy; if their...

3 Tools for a Happier Relationship

What Is the Biggest Cause of Strife in a Relationship?   This is the question that both men and women have been asking me recently. The topic is big enough to warrant a book, yet I will tackle it in short form. My hope is that this will give you several things to think about as well as experiments to try. The biggest cause of strife between couples is not feeling connected, although that is not how it is said. Here is what I frequently hear from couples: • We’ve grown apart. • S/he doesn’t want sex as much as I do (or used to). • S/he’s at work all the time. • S/he’s so busy with our kids that s/he doesn’t pay...

Allison Cohen

Today we’re lucky enough to speak with Allison Cohen. Allison has been featured on The Today Show, NPR, and in Cosmo for her expert relationship advice. She runs an excellent psychotherapy practice based in Los Angeles, specializing in couples therapy and relationship...

How To Flirt With A Guy Over Text

Text message communication has gone up significantly in the past few years. For good or bad, it’s replaced phone calls as the go-to method of distance flirting. But to its credit, text messaging has several key benefits that you can take advantage of: Texting is quick – You can send a fast text and go right back to what you were doing. You don’t have to worry about awkward voicemails (that he may or may not listen to) or if he is going to pick up. You’re able to flirt with a guy at your convenience. Texting can be private (but not always) – With a phone call, everyone around you can listen in on your conversation. If you’ve just...